Trust Meter

"Trust is the most important thing in any kind of relationship". Wait a minute !!! read it again " Trust is the most important thing in any kind of relationship"



Generally whenever we refer to something irrelavent we call it a 'thing' - And we are calling "Trust" - a thing - does that mean that it is irrelavent in a relationship ???



I think this makes very little sense and a more apt statement can be " Trust is Relationship " - You trust - You have a relationship, You don't trust and you still have a relationship - it's an "Obligation".



So what do you have with your family, friends, colleagues - a relationship or an obligation ??

Give it a good thought before you read further !!!



I, from my personal experience have learnt few lessons on trust which life has taught me and believe me they are quite interesting and hence I thought this subject would be apt for my next blog. I know not many people read my blogs presently but I hope sooner or later people will be reading it. I hope the readers liked "FLight Mode" and hope that they'll like this one too.



To begin with, let me define TRUST from my understanding :

Trust to me is an expression of fear and panic, when the locus of control of this fear/panic is external we feel more comfortable and relaxed. Did I make sense ??? For examle when I was an infant I always felt safe and comfortable when I was in my father's or mother's arms. I trusted them the most. I didnt have the understanding to recognize them as my parents then, but I still was free from all fear when I was with them, Why ??? because............ my locus of control was with them and not me.



We say trust - building activity is important to grow relationships. I think the whole concept is wrong, because if it is right, then do we attend a trust building activity before taking birth - NO - then why do we trust our parents the most from day one all our lives.



Hence trust does not build relationships , trust is relationship or rather a relationship builds trust between two people.



The other thing which I learnt is that Trust is like a radioactive material within ourselves and it decays from birth till death, it is also the shift of locus of control from external to internal., basically a shift from an impulsive to decisive mode. As we grow, our impulsive nature subsides and our decisive nature takes over. When I was in school I always found it very easy to make friends whom I trusted and they are friends for life. When I went to college I was a little bit cautious in choosing friends whom I could trust and some of them surely are still my friends for life, now, when I am a professional, life has made me very cautious in making friends who I can trust. So basically as I grew I had to take my decisions........ the locus of control slowly shifted within me making me more cautious because my TRUST METER is basically .......................decaying - my impulsive nature is dying .....

So friends, never base a relationship on trust ............... it might just die out someday ........ make relationship your trust .................. and trust me, if you can understand what I am trying to say and religiously try and follow this, you will never ask your partner " Do you trust me ? " coz if he/she is still your partner that itself means that there is a relationship............... that there is trust.

Think about it !!!
Dipankar

Flight Mode !!!

It's scary when the pilot says " Good morning everyone, this is the captain speaking ... argh .. hmm .. we are actually facing a technical glitch ... i really can't figure out what's wrong .... but the avionics and the navigation systems are down ..... " - To avoid such situations Govt. of India has made a policy of not using cell phones once you are on board the flight.

But .................. ironically .......... whenever I am on a flight and strictly follow the rule ( because i wanna live long and also because i dont wanna be that unknown reason for the technical glitch ) i always find a Superman gentleman getting all important phone calls at that very moment.


The uncanny truth about homo sapiens is that we love to do things abnormally, since some wise men have said that great people dont do different things , they do things differently .... so we have to do things differently ............ we have to make that unncessary phone call at the last minute ..... we have to unfasten our seat belt as soon as the indicator light goes off ....... we have to ask the air hostess to get a McDonald burger .... (knowing that McDonald's dont serve at 35000 feet) just to strike a conversation........................ we have to take our eyes away from the safety instructions being given, as if we know it by heart.

I still keep wondering why do people do this .............. just to prove that they are regular air travellers ............... or is it that fear of getting identified as " not a regular traveller ".

So whoever is reading this ............... it's not wise to take that last minute call just before take-off rather it's safer to neglect that call and switch it off .................

It's totally our call !!!!!!!!!!!

Think about it !!!!
Dipankar